B002 韌性 / Resilienz

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書名：韌性：挺過挫折壓力，走出低潮逆境的神秘力量
作者：克莉絲蒂娜．伯恩特
出版年份：2015

解答：怎樣的人具有韌性？如何強化？
亮點：

a. 沒有任何證據顯示自我壓抑會造成癌症，反而是先有癌症確診才有壓抑傾向。

b. 德國社會更加強調幼兒的社交與情緒能力。書中以教導孩童衝突學習的活動為例：當有一名兒童準備溜滑梯，遇到下方坐著不動的兒童時該怎麼辦？在課程中學齡前兒童會學到「萬一下面的人不肯起身，我會發生什麼事？」「這時下面的人會有什麼感覺？」「是不是他身體不舒服？」「如果硬往下滑會發生什麼事？」「何不邀請他一起上來溜下去？」孩童有機會學著去思考。

c. 韌性與成長環境、基因有關。

啟發：

a. 這是一本以德國人(或歐洲人)角度敘述的書，以往我常看的書應該比較多英美作者，因此這本書提出了一些不同民族性的觀點。

b. 孩童並非出生後的幾年一直黏在自己的母親，才能得到良好的心理發展，即使產後的母親立即回歸職場，也不會因此對嬰兒的身心健康造成負面影響。「如果如此，世界上或許只有富裕國家的家庭主婦的孩子，才是唯一最正常的人。」

作者探討不只無形的特質，也提出科學觀點，不同於一般強調正念思考的書。

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Name: Resilienz: Das Geheimnis der psychischen Widerstandskraft Was uns stark macht gegen Stress, Depressionen und Burn-out
Author: Christina Berndt
Publication Year: 2015

Solutions: What kind of person possesses resilience and how can we enhance it?
Highlights: 

a. No evidence shows that self-suppression can lead to cancer. Instead, it is being diagnosed with cancer that leads to self-suppression.

b. The society in Germany puts more emphasis on kids' social and emotional abilities. Take a conflict-learning activity for example. What should you do when you play on the slide, but another kid is right in your way down there? In this activity, kids in preschool will learn "What will happen if he doesn't get up?" "How does he feel at the moment?" "Maybe he's feeling unwell." "What happens if I'm on the slide?" "Why not inviting him to join with me?" Kids have the chance to learn to think.

c. Resilience is both growing-environment-related and gene-related.

Inspirations: 

a. The book is based on the perspectives of a German (or a European), which is rather different from books written by American or British authors. This book presents many points of view that are new to me.

b. It is not that children sticking to their moms a few years after birth obtain well mental developments. For moms after delivering their babies, going back to work instantly doesn't make negative impact on a baby's mental health. "If so, the only normal person in the world would probably be the child of a housewife in rich countries."

The author included not only invisible characteristics but also scientific proofs in this book, which made it an exceptional book other than those emphasizing positive thinking.